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Let’s break down the bridesmaid-zilla hall of fame. For the three people who haven’t seen it: Jane Nichols (Heigl) is the ultimate wedding sidekick. She has a closet overflowing with taffeta (olive green, anyone?) and an Excel spreadsheet of her 27 stints as a bridesmaid. She loves love. She lives for the "something blue." The problem? She’s secretly in love with her boss, George (Edward Burns), a commitment-phobe who sees her as a human calendar rather than a partner.

I recently re-watched the 2008 Katherine Heigl classic, expecting a cozy dose of nostalgia. What I got instead was a surprisingly sharp (and slightly painful) lesson about people-pleasing, invisible labor, and why you should never, ever fall for your boss. 27 Dresses

The good: It nails the emotional labor women often perform for free. It argues that being "helpful" isn't a personality, and that you cannot pour from an empty champagne flute. Let’s break down the bridesmaid-zilla hall of fame

Enter Kevin (James Marsden), a cynical wedding columnist who smells a story in Jane’s pathological selflessness. Chaos, karaoke, and the most chaotic police station scene of the 2000s ensue. Watching this as a teenager, I thought Jane was simply nice . Watching it as a 30-year-old, I realize Jane isn't just nice—she’s a burnout waiting to happen. She loves love

She folds napkins into swans for other people’s weddings. She gets up at 4 AM to do her sister’s laundry. She literally jumps out of a moving limo to save a wedding cake. We laugh, but the clinical term for that is "chronic people-pleasing." It’s exhausting to watch because it’s exhausting to live .