This is the prologue to every day in our three-generation home in Mumbai. It’s a symphony of chaos, love, compromise, and a million cups of chai.
6:00 AM. The day doesn’t start with an alarm clock in our house. It starts with the distant, rhythmic sound of my grandmother, Amma, chanting slokas in the puja room, followed by the insistent “caw-caw” of crows on the windowsill. My mother believes feeding crows first thing in the morning pleases the ancestors. So, by 6:15 AM, she’s scattering a handful of grains on the balcony. This is the prologue to every day in
But when you fail an exam, you have five people telling you it’s okay. When you are happy, the joy multiplies by eight. And when you come home late at night, there is always a light left on in the hallway, a glass of water on the table, and the soft sound of someone snoring. The day doesn’t start with an alarm clock in our house
The kids return home like a tornado. Bags are thrown, shoes fly across the hall. The fight over the TV remote begins. My mother becomes a referee: “No TV until math homework is done!” Meanwhile, the maid arrives to wash the dishes, the dhobi (laundry man) arrives to collect the clothes, and the wifi stops working. Dadaji tries to fix the wifi and accidentally unplugs the refrigerator. Chaos reigns. So, by 6:15 AM, she’s scattering a handful
Indian families have a rule: Atithi Devo Bhava (The guest is God). Just as my mother sits down to eat her solitary lunch, the doorbell rings. It’s Masi (aunt) from Pune, unannounced. Panic? No. My mother simply smiles, adds an extra spoon of ghee to the dal, and magically stretches the two portions into four by whipping up a quick sabzi. Within ten minutes, the lunch table is full again. This is normal. In an Indian home, there is always enough rice and love to go around.